Friday 31 August 2012

2. In Africa they call it yOHghurt

I thought it would be nice to introduce the family, starting with Daniel and his wise words.

A couple of weeks ago he was telling his friend about our Africa trip: "What language do they speak in Africa?", said Matthew. "African!", said Daniel, in a tone of such authority that I swelled with fatherly pride. "Wow! And do YOU speak any African?". "Well, I really only know one word in African: in Africa they say yOHghurt, but in our country we say yOghurt."

Daniel's like that all the time. He's 4-and-a-half, sharp and observant. When we got hopelessly lost in a hedge maze a few months ago Daniel was so insistent he knew the way out that we finally humoured him and let him lead the way.  We were out within two minutes. He knows what a quetzal is. And a triceratops. And he uses words like 'dehydrated'. Mind, he also uses words like "Can you come and wipe my bottom?" at least three times an hour so it's not all Proust.

Next there's Reuben. He's our younger son, 20 months old and just starting to talk. He's not said quetzal yet but he has said "veuf" (that's the French for widower, by the way), which made me very proud. He's incredibly cheeky and has a smile which would melt the heart of the Ice Queen. I guess it will come in handy in Africa if we ever need to store any butter: we'll just get Reuben to put it in his mouth. It will never melt. He can get away with anything and he knows it.

Claire is the brains of the operation, she's 34, smart, and hard-working. And I mean really hard working. She has a couple of degrees in environmental science and works for a consultancy. She's very methodical and detailed, and where I take a shotgun approach to life, she's a sniper rifle. We complement each other perfectly. She has a head for figures and plans, and knows where she's heading. She's like the tether on the hot-air balloon of our lives - absolutely critical to keeping us the right way up with our feet on the ground. At work she's a project manager, and she's good at it.

Then there's me. I'm 35, two metres tall and I get mistaken for Louis Theroux. I'd have preferred Daniel Craig, but you have to play the hand you're dealt. I'm a life-long engineer: even as a kid I was always fixing things and my folks used to joke that there was nothing in the world I couldn't mend with hot glue and Lego. I still use a record player I once fixed with hot glue and Lego. I own two hot glue guns in case I ever need to fix one of my hot glue guns using hot glue. I use about ten percent of my degree, but all those years spent forming interesting scars on my knuckles with molten goo and extracting danish plastic from down the back of the sofa using a ruler covered in Sellotape seem to have stood me in good stead for a career in engineering.

Ever since we've been married we've wanted to do some mission work which used our combined skills of engineering and project management: we lead incredibly privileged lives, in common with so many people in the West, and we feel that we are obliged to give back the things given to us: to use our skills and our resources to help others. So over the eleven years we've checked out a lot of organisations; Christian Aid, VSO, Engineers Sans Frontiers, Habitat for Humanity, and others. In 2006 we went to Bulgaria for a week as part of a mission team but didn't get the feeling that it was our calling. By 2010, after pushing on so many doors and never feeling a strong pull towards any of them, we'd started to think that our "mission" was to teach and equip Daniel and Reuben to serve when they grew up.

Then J-Life happened.  As I said in the last blog post, I did a short stint with them in 2010 and really got caught up by their vision. I don't remember this but apparently in the airport on the way back I said to a friend "you know, I could go and work for J-Life for three years". If this teaches you anything, it is that you should be careful what you say in case someone or something takes you seriously.

So it may seem crazy to quit two very good jobs and move a settled family to a different continent with an unknown culture to do something enormous with no money for an organisation we are just getting to know, and on the face of it, put like that, it is. But we've been planning and praying for this for a long time and we trust God's got it sorted.

So, yeah, it's mad as a box of frogs and scares the life out of us at times, but at the end of it, in three years or thirty, we'll have impacted a few lives, we'll have left our comfort zone to see what is on the other side, and we'll have a good story to tell. That's worth the risk.

5 comments:

  1. Oh, I hadn't laughed so much in a while. Thanks for sharing that! You've really made my day. We love your style of writing. Going at this rate of unexpected changes in your life in a few years this may be a book, eh? :-) Just elaborating on the be-careful-what-you-say-you-will-do-or-will-not-do side. Keep it going! Looking forward to your next post...

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  2. Guys we just love you people so much. Praying that as then next 18 weeks or so go by, you will all know more of Gods love and peace in your hearts. You are an inspiration to so many of us. Its going to be so good to keep up with all your news. Praying for Daniel as he starts school this week.
    WDL&MH

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  3. I'm going to enjoy these updates Mr Stonier. You have a good way with words.

    Had a good sermon this morning from Bishop Mike Bishop of Bristol. He said "faith is taking God at his and living as though I take him at his word." I'm loving seeing you guys live this. Keep trusting in God! He is good and faithful. Love you E xx

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  4. You can't go wrong with hot glue. Fact.

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  5. This morning, Daniel said "Mummy, from now on I am going to call it yOHghurt so that when I get to Africa people will be able to understand me". Aww.

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